Tulan on Fri, 04/05/2013 – 18:18.
I was without a father, also, but I always longed for a dad. All my friends had dads and I missed having one, although my mother and I had a great relationship.I felt like I missed out.
LaToya on Fri, 04/05/2013 – 23:44.
Thanks for sharing your story. It is always nice to observe and hear another person’s personal perspective. I did know my father and I had met his family yet I felt absolutely no type of connection to them as they were not at all my class of people to want to be around. And I am glad that he was not in my life. I did not miss out on anything as far as he was concerned. I am very sure though that many females have loved having their fathers around. To each his or her own. Sorry that you did not get the chance to experience what you felt you missed out on.
Very good. Very strong.
and I can agree with you (Ihave got a doughter), but I am also divorced when she was 2yrs and tobe honest – girls need fathers.
It’s my opinion, you’ve got your own and that’s good. I don’t know you, but I see what you write here and I can say – you wrote absolutely true things – your Mum has done a good job in upbringing you and you will do the same with yours children!!!
….(but it doesn’t mean that doughters don’t need fathers…)
I agree with you completely. There are daughters that do indeed need a father figure within their lives. We are all different. I have no disagreements with what you said.
The bond between a mother and daughter is great. However, I have to say that a strong father figure in a daughter’s life makes a difference. I have seen little girls grow up with no father and find that they do not know what a good relationship between a man and woman looks like. How can she choose a good husband or boyfriend? This is my opinion but a child girl or boy needs to have two parents so that they can see how love grows and how men and women should inter act with each other. My daughter was raised with two parents and her views on relationships and even sex are different from her friends who did not have a two parent home. I am not saying a child can not develop and mature ok in a single parent home but it is hard for one person to be both mother and father to a child. Children do not come with manuals so we just have to work with what we have and hope that our children turn out good.
Like I said we are all indeed different. I have grown up with males and females. I know who my father was and I still do.
However, I did not ever have a need for him. And love comes naturally. There is no set standard within how a man and a woman love one another.
I personally was born Asexual so I never had any sexual attraction or desire for any man. And I am very proud of that.
If I ever had any children no father will be involved because that is my prerogative. What comes out of my body belongs to me. I would go to a sperm bank.
And society in my opinion is not a good example of the male and female roles as it is often bias. I am more into what is natural than as to what is generalized.
To me the union between a man and a woman is unnatural and undesirable. And that has absolutely nothing to do with me not growing up around a father figure.
There have been plenty of men who were interested in me who were shocked to see that I was not the average female.
I have an entirely different mentality and I always knew a whole lot about different types of men and people because I am very intelligent and I was born with a caul/veil (the gift of second-sight).
No one has ever been able to put anything over on me.
I knew things that women who regularly dealt with men did not know about them.
There have been fathers of other young females and uncles of other young females who have told me that they wish that their female relatives were like me because many of them were getting dogged out and messed over by men.
A father even told me that he wished he had of brought his daughter over to talk to me before he found out that she had went and got pregnant at the age of eighteen.
He informed that he would have made her get an abortion if his wife had not kept the pregnancy hidden from him to a more later time.
There are many stories that I can tell.
However, to each his or her own, but this is a huge world and society and I definitely know for a fact that particular females do not at all need any male influence within the home to be productive and knowledgeable within the certain areas of life. And I am very firm on that because I am living proof!
There are certain things that men just do not understand when it comes to a female-I’m speaking from personal experience.
Some females who are too emotional and insecure make it bad for other women who are just the opposite.
All women do not get sexually attached to men through sex. All women do not get hurt if men mess around with other women, some do not even care.
Words like bitch and whore are not offensive to me yet many women do get offended by those words and men think that they can hurt a woman by saying those things.
Many women are brainwashed by the male influence. I could go on but I do not need to write a novel.
People will and are going to think what they want to think.
I am just very glad that I am very open-minded and that I am not limited and do not let anyone persuade my judgement in life.
No one can tell me anything that contradicts what I have experienced and what I know through insight, wisdom, and perception.