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Authentic Expression

in styleI am and have consistently been attracted to beauty, and “beauty” has many specific definitions.

I am classy as I love different types of music including contemporary jazz. To me, music is one of the most beautiful “instrumental tunes” on the earth.

Everyone can find variety in selection and entertainment, so full of pizazz!

What is going on with personal individual identification though?

A lot of people who are pretty do not think that they are attractive and many people who are ugly think that they are attractive.

What is unattractive and what is attractive or even acceptable in actuality? Let’s have a reality check.

I have an eye for what looks good and for what doesn’t. I have always had good taste whether it was in clothing, furniture, art and so on. What may look good to one person may not look good to someone else, and some individuals just do not conceive or even know what true beauty really is.

I am a person who has never worn any type of make-up or cosmetics because I have never needed to I believe in being purely natural. A lot of individuals suffer from poor self image and/or low self confidence due to the “false standards” that others have set upon them and within society, genuine beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and within all forms and colors.

I cannot ever watch television without seeing people especially appearing on screen with some type of “made up face”. They are either trying to cover up something or to make themselves appear “better” through the use of cosmetics.

To me, the natural look is the best look.

When I look into the mirror I honestly like what I see and others do too I have gotten many of compliments and have had many admires, not that it is of any importance because I do not base my self worth or “self” anything else on appearance or whether or not anyone approves of it or not.

I never cared what anyone ever thought about me and what I looked like It only mattered how I truly felt inside, and I am truly happy and proud of myself.

That is why it was so disturbing to me when I heard yesterday morning on the news the way young girls these days are supposedly “camouflaging” themselves by downplaying there own attributes whether physical or mental just to blend in within their own social circle. And the anchorwoman and the other professional woman being interviewed claimed that “every” female has camouflaged herself some point in life one time or another even within adulthood.

tree twirlThat is a complete lie and a insult to all the other women and girls who were never afraid to be their natural selves and to stand out among a crowd, I should know I am living proof.

I have reflected on how sad it was to see certain people whether male or female eventually and drastically mutilate themselves through the acts of going under the knife to receive plastic surgery because some idiotic soul inaccurately told them that they were ugly or unattractive.

Beauty (prettiness/intellect) is indeed within the eye of the beholder and the one that should behold is definitely “thyself”.

Pretending to be “stupid” or not as smart as oneself actually is just to not be judged or ridiculed due to the fact that certain others may not measure up in ability is often unnecessary and quite obscene in my opinion.

Why desire to be around anyone who cannot accept another’s own authentic demeanor and/or personality? Those types are not worth surrounding one’s self with, changing an identity to lose one within the process? No thank you!

When some people downplay someone else’s looks or mental capacity they are at times being honest as there may be reasonable truths since there is so much opinion, diversity and preference, however, the majority of the time it is done purely out of envy and jealousy because they actually lack the attributes or qualities that they recognize within another and they go into denial then lash out.

 

My other corresponding self written posts:

(https://misslatoya.wordpress.com/2012/11/21/natural-beautywhat-is-real-is-better-than-what-is-fake/)

(https://misslatoya.wordpress.com/2012/11/20/the-beautiful-skin-that-i-am-in/)

 

 

 

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Call Me Occasionally Red And Oily, But Don’t Hate Me Because I Am Beautiful!

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This is interesting and kind of silly, maybe even funny to some, but mostly sad in my opinion.

I am from African American and Native American bloodline with a little bit percentage of European mixture. I am not a dark skinned black. I am medium to light brown depending on the weather. During the summer I may get tanned a bit to a medium brown, but during the winter season my natural light brown color returns back to normal.

What I found strange is that amongst a few people within my lifetime I’ve come across those in particular who thought or assumed that my face may had been irritated, or that I was putting something on it just because my complexion was red in its appearance.

And I thought to myself, “Why? Just because I am a black person I cannot naturally turn red? It has to be considered a skin problem or a reaction to something that I may have done cosmetically?

A lady even once thought that I had applied a substance to my skin just because it was greasy due to the natural sometimes excessive oils and shine of my skin.

White people and people of a high yellow and light complexion are not the only ones to turn red.

I turn red sometimes when it is cold outside, my face and body turn red after washing with hot water, and sometimes during hormonal changes due to the menstrual cycle my skin turns sensitive and will turn red after washing my face with soap and remain that color through out the rest of the day. No big deal to me!

Beauty and health is in the eye of the beholder. I’ve always been very attractive and I have always had a pretty brown complexion that would heal and rejuvenate rather quickly. During my teenage years up until now I’d notice how rapidly my new skin cells would develop sometimes leaving my facial skin flaky and peeling which is a good thing as it is a natural process by the body to shed off old cells.

The flaking and peeling never lasts too long and happens here and there with me, and sometimes at a more rapid rate than normal. In return, there may be some dark patches of scales that result from the desquamation.

I have oily skin so I naturally repair with moisture and a youthful appearance. I love the way my skin is yet some ignorant people may assume or mistake a normal process from the body as a skin disorder.

If I had a normal discoloration or a mild temporary dark spot it was automatically assumed that it was from an eruption when in actuality my skin had never broken out at all. The only time I may get an eruption is during the menstrual cycle and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

What manifests on the skin can have a lot to do with what is going on within the inside of the body as well as on the outside; many diseases and medical conditions are detected in that fashion with further evaluation.

Particular medications that people are on and that they take may also trigger an outwardly affect on their skin or extremities.

I never wore any type of make up and/or used any type of chemical facial beauty aids; I stay pure and original in every mode and form as I believe in the natural benefits, effects, and rewards of nutrition and a healthy lifestyle.

Aside from lack of knowledge, sometimes it is also a jealousy.

Some people like to pick and poke at other people to see if they can get a reaction out of them to cause them to have a complex and insecurity because they themselves have and suffer from a low self esteem and they do not have the self confidence that they so mostly envy in others.

They often put, and try to put their own hang ups and insecurities on certain other people and sometimes it does work on specific people depending on whether or not the individuals are weak-minded enough to fall for and to believe in the nonsense and the deceptive games .

Education is very important, and that is learned by one’s own experience and knowledge-in whatever and however manner that may be-which contributes to personal wisdom. It is sad how individuals get swayed by unreason and misdirected through trivial pursuits.

I had got curious and conducted one search on the internet regarding anyone who may had inquired about the “turning red” issue and came across a few, I copied and posted one below. It is not at all to me a heavy subject or anything serious to bring into attention but it is something to take into consideration and to keep in mind as a little food for thought.

Do black people blush or turn red?

I’m black and i blush
and if i scratch it dosent take long for that area to turn noticeable red
im not that light skinned
i was just wondering it other black or brown people blush because i was always told they don’t, well they do you just can’t see it.
and i know i’m not the only one

Best AnswerVoter’s Choice

You are absolutely correct. Darker skinned people flush just like pale people, it’s simply that the results are less visible.

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Kel answered 4 years ago
Everyone blushes or turns red. But due to the color a persons skin, sometimes it will not be very visible or noticable.
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Natural Beauty/What Is Real Is Better Than What Is Fake

When I watch television I can’t help but to notice how a lot of celebrities nowadays resort to having plastic surgery.

It is sad how displeased they are with their appearance. And so displeased that they are willing to go under the knife and waste thousands of dollars on lifts, rhinoplasties, breast implants and tummy tucks.

In my opinion many of them looked a lot better before the surgery. And many of them look a lot better without make up.

I could never imagine allowing a doctor to perform cosmetic surgery on me if the procedure was not necessary (even if it was necessary I’d be reluctant to do it).

I can understand the people with medical problems and those that have been in terrible accidents who may need plastic surgery for reconstruction purposes, but for those who purely do it for the sake of vanity is just ridiculous.

A lot of females in the african american community (as well as celebrities whether white or black) parade around wearing the most outrageous of weaves some of the hair pieces do look decent as they are created nicely and neatly but, then you have those particular weaves that really need to go. The ones with the crazy color combinations and the ones that are very wackily styled.

I knew a girl who would get a different weave done on her head every friday. It was some kind of sickness to me because she already had a nice grade of her own natural hair.

I think it would be much better and appropriate if women invested more time, energy, and money into maintaining their real heads of hair as opposed to buying that expensive fake hair.

It is not natural/real so why bother to wear it? Why are these women so obsessed with sporting long hair that is not theirs?

I knew another girl who would wear her weave in a big bun under a scarf to make it appear as if she had plenty of thick long hair underneath. Then turn around the next day revealing her short thin permed locks. She’d do it all of the time when her natural hair wasn’t fixed. Who was she fooling?

You have some women who go and put on so much make up that they look like a clown. What are they trying to cover up and why aren’t they comfortable in their own skin?

To me, there is nothing more beautiful than being natural. That is the best appearance. I do not and have never worn any weaves or make up, nor have I ever had the thought and desire to transform myself through any type of cosmetic surgery.

The body is precious and should not be tampered with. I love everything that I was born with and would not change a thing that would be totally insane!

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The Beautiful Skin That I Am In

I am a thinker, a challenger, a truth teller and seeker.

It is very good to observe, question, talk about, and evaluate the many things that are going on in the world and around us.

By nature, I was always the type to thoroughly analyze and investigate. I was never easily influenced by anyone or anything simply due to something being laid out as fact or generalized as standard/normal, because I was very strong willed and had a very strong competent mind of my own.

As a female, I have experienced ridiculous bias that was foreign to me growing up. It was foreign because I never knew that I was supposed to be restricted in certain areas as far as my gender was concerned.

Society likes to dictate how a woman should be, act, think, and feel when the only way that I truly know how to conduct myself is naturally. And that is the same way that I will always continue to do. My character and disposition contradicts the stereotypical role and definition of a female. And no one will ever be able to stop or change me.

I’ve heard the most absurd things from assholes, including low scale women. “She’s too hard for a girl”.

I never knew as a woman that I was supposed to be weak! I had never been that way in my childhood or teenage years and certainly not in my adulthood.

“When a man say is how it goes”.

I never knew that a man’s words spit out gold and authority especially when he is not speaking truth! I have never heeded or been affected by anybody’s opinions or scolding that did not appeal or apply to me and my philosophies, whether they were male or female.

I know and am well aware that there are jealous/envious sick-minded people, and people who will always go around telling and spreading silly and vicious lies on others. This type of behavior goes on everyday and everywhere.

A rumor that I had found very strange about me is the one about my skin or face. Ever since I was a very young girl I have always been pretty and very attractive. I’ve had good skin and a nice grade of hair. And none of that is really important; however, it contradicts what my enemies were trying to do.

From my comprehension I believe that they wanted to give me a complex or a low self esteem, just another one of society’s ploys to keep a young and bright woman down by attempting to make her feel insecure about herself.

The biggest mistake that those in particular made is generalizing me. I am my own individual. And instead of playing into the obnoxious mind games, I learned from the ignorance of others. They showed the knowledge and the common sense that they lack, and the insecurities that they themselves actually have.

I have never ever had a skin problem yet my enemies had worked a black magic spell years ago for me to “breakout” then have people taunt me with lies. These stupid rumors went on for years with these chosen few sick people. And I never understood it.

Till this day I still do not understand it. When I was a teenager they tried to put in my head through black magic that I looked hideous and I never fell for it.

Beauty is indeed in the eyes of the beholder but I’ve never been an ugly person. And not that it matters-a lot of other people considered me to be pretty too. I have my own eyes. I can see myself for who and what I really am. What an insult to think that I would have been dumb and weak minded enough to not know better. Such stupid asses!

Why are and were they so hung up on my looks? I know why. A lot of guys were attracted to me and could not have their way with me because I had too much self love and confidence. Another reason why is that so many women have allowed themselves to be dogged out by men due to their own battles with low self esteem.

Everybody has their own motives for why they are sick and malicious and do what they do.

It all stemmed from jealousy, but my enemies all went about it the wrong way. If I ever did come to develop a skin problem such as acne it definitely would have not affected my self confidence. Things like that do not faze or bother me.

The most beautiful girls have breakouts due to allergies, their menstrual cycles or hormones and it is no big deal. I know that my hormones act up sometimes during my period. It is natural. I had to learn that I was rare in my thoughts about this matter. I realized that many people do associate a blemish, bump, or spots on the face with low self esteem and I think that is so sad.

There are people with clear skin who are as ugly as hell and they want to crack on attractive people with minor shit that holds no significance.

Only a true fool would ever come to the conclusion that I would feel bad or insecure about myself over breaking out with something. I always had a pretty face and complexion. I love the way that I look. I like my naturally oily skin that keeps me looking young in appearance. I like my slim/thin figure. I like myself.

This garbage is no different than a woman being regarded as a bitch or a slut, two other words that do not faze or bother me. And I’ve seen women go crazy over being called a “bitch”.

One lady acted as if she wanted to kill me over calling her one. I didn’t even mean it in the way that the rest of the world uses it. To me it was more of a way of saying “you asshole”.

The bottom line is that the world is a sick place full of good, mediocre, and evil people. There will always be those who will come along to try to break people’s strengths, play on their weaknesses if they have any, and destroy their spirits.

And sometimes it happens more so when you are a woman. Society loves to prey on and beat down women by bashing their reputations and physicality, coercing them into buying into submission and repression for meanness, power, selfishness, and personal gain.

There are individuals who will fall for the games and those who will not. And there will be those who will get confused.

I keep my ears and eyes open. I take everything in then sort it all out. I enjoy my life and my discoveries. It is a blessing to not get caught up in all of the nonsense.

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Body Image

Friday, May 12, 2006 at 10:07 AM EDT

I’m not self-conscious about anything when it comes to me. I really appreciate the things that i am blessed with. I like the way i look, i like how i talk, i like the way i think, i like the way i walk. and i like how i act. Everything about me is real, natural, and extraordinary!

I have a very slim figure. I love the shape and size of my body, and if nobody else does that is their problem. What does anyone else’s opinion have to do with me?

I listen to some people and how they are so obsessed with their appearance due to what they feel are society’s standards of how one should be displayed.

And, some people starve themselves to be thin by eating then intentionally vomiting up their food or by just not eating at all. Anorexia and Bulimia are quite ridiculous.

I use to be much heavier when i was in my early teens.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being solid or chubby if you are healthy. The reason i felt i had to get rid of the weight that i had is because my thighs started rubbing together and i’d run out of breath easily. But i don’t cut off my food supply to look a certain way. My metabolism has changed since then so i can eat whatever i want and don’t gain anything.

I do a lot of walking and my energy burns fat off.

But for those who’s food does stick to them rather quickly, so what? Who has the right to say extra meat on one’s bones is not attractive? I’d never compromise myself to be so-called “beautified” to anyone’s bullshit standards. As a black person i may be considered too skinny to some. A lot of black women’s trademarks are having huge behinds, thick thighs, and big hips. I’ve been there, it doesn’t mean a thing to me! I’m little now. I’ve had a little body for a long time now and i love it!

We have to be happy with ourselves and make ourselves happy.

No one can ever make me feel bad about myself because i love myself way too much. If someone doesn’t approve of the way you appear maybe they’re not good enough to be around you, and that goes for anyone- an associate, boyfriend, relative and whoever else!

When i style my hair i do it for me and not to impress people that i come into contact with on the outside. I’ll do my hair when i don’t go out! When i wear my clothes it’s to look good and decent for myself because i may like “my own shit”.

And when others do appreciate or compliment anything about you it can be cool but it shouldn’t be the most important because when you completely and genuinely are secure and approve of yourself anything that anyone feels about you-nice or nasty-won’t be of any deep “fazing”.

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People In The Church

Saturday, February 11, 2006 at 8:46 AM EST

Some people in the church are the worst people out there. They use their God as a cover, to hide what they really are. Some feel that everybody has skeletons in their closet and that nobody is a saint because everyone has done something wrong and made mistakes in life. But there is a difference between being unscrupulous and making honest mistakes. And everybody who has done something bad is not innately a bad person.

People often have their own interpretations of what is right or wrong and judge others by their own standards. What i’ve observed though, is that people who are too religious and act overly self-righteous have serious issues with themselves. They’ve done things in life that they can’t handle and tend to put their own insecurities on others to mask what they regret.

Sometimes what they see in another person is just a reminder of what they could have been. There is just as much gossip and dirt going on in some churches as there is anywhere else in the world. Some people just go to church for a fashion show, dressing to impress. Some go to church to meet a man. And some just keep putting on airs. Going to church doesn’t prove that one is a good person. You can have church in your own home. Having your God or deity in your heart is what truly matters.

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Appearances Sake

Friday, March 10, 2006 at 1:35 PM EST

I do believe that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and that it is not wise to always judge a book by it’s cover because looks can be deceiving.

Our society often tends to place a lot of value on the way people appear.

Are looks that important when it involves getting into a relationship? To some, it does matter importantly. To others it does not. Most of the time it is physical attraction that gets a person interested in the first place. Caring about how you look does show and can build self-esteem.

A person doesn’t have to be a sharp dresser to prove that she or he is, or feels worth something though.

I’m laid-back. As long as i’m clean with my body and dress decently i’m good to go. I don’t dress to impress anyone. When i look in the mirror i like what i see and don’t care who else doesn’t.

A lot of females do care about how they look in front of a guy. They worry if their hair isn’t done right or if they have a pimple. I’ve even heard that some people believe if you get pimples it’s because of a lack of sexual activity. To me that is absurd.

Many people have breakouts due to hormonal imbalances. Some males even use that line, “If we have sex it’ll make our bumps go away”. Like getting a pimple is the worst thing in the world.

You have certain women who dress provocative to attract a man’s attention. I don’t think that it is wrong for a woman who feels good and confident about her body to wear tank tops and short skirts as long as she appears tasteful and she’s doing it for herself because she likes the style of the clothing.

I’ve seen women let men dictate how they should appear while they were in relationships with them.

If their men considered that they were gaining too much weight they’d criticize them and tried to control what they ate and made them pop diet pills.

One girl that i hung out with went and bought a negligee to put on for an intimate night with her boyfriend. Then when she told him about the purchase she’d made for the lingerie he told her, “What did you buy it for, you can’t fit in it”.