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Authentic Expression

in styleI am and have consistently been attracted to beauty, and “beauty” has many specific definitions.

I am classy as I love different types of music including contemporary jazz. To me, music is one of the most beautiful “instrumental tunes” on the earth.

Everyone can find variety in selection and entertainment, so full of pizazz!

What is going on with personal individual identification though?

A lot of people who are pretty do not think that they are attractive and many people who are ugly think that they are attractive.

What is unattractive and what is attractive or even acceptable in actuality? Let’s have a reality check.

I have an eye for what looks good and for what doesn’t. I have always had good taste whether it was in clothing, furniture, art and so on. What may look good to one person may not look good to someone else, and some individuals just do not conceive or even know what true beauty really is.

I am a person who has never worn any type of make-up or cosmetics because I have never needed to I believe in being purely natural. A lot of individuals suffer from poor self image and/or low self confidence due to the “false standards” that others have set upon them and within society, genuine beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and within all forms and colors.

I cannot ever watch television without seeing people especially appearing on screen with some type of “made up face”. They are either trying to cover up something or to make themselves appear “better” through the use of cosmetics.

To me, the natural look is the best look.

When I look into the mirror I honestly like what I see and others do too I have gotten many of compliments and have had many admires, not that it is of any importance because I do not base my self worth or “self” anything else on appearance or whether or not anyone approves of it or not.

I never cared what anyone ever thought about me and what I looked like It only mattered how I truly felt inside, and I am truly happy and proud of myself.

That is why it was so disturbing to me when I heard yesterday morning on the news the way young girls these days are supposedly “camouflaging” themselves by downplaying there own attributes whether physical or mental just to blend in within their own social circle. And the anchorwoman and the other professional woman being interviewed claimed that “every” female has camouflaged herself some point in life one time or another even within adulthood.

tree twirlThat is a complete lie and a insult to all the other women and girls who were never afraid to be their natural selves and to stand out among a crowd, I should know I am living proof.

I have reflected on how sad it was to see certain people whether male or female eventually and drastically mutilate themselves through the acts of going under the knife to receive plastic surgery because some idiotic soul inaccurately told them that they were ugly or unattractive.

Beauty (prettiness/intellect) is indeed within the eye of the beholder and the one that should behold is definitely “thyself”.

Pretending to be “stupid” or not as smart as oneself actually is just to not be judged or ridiculed due to the fact that certain others may not measure up in ability is often unnecessary and quite obscene in my opinion.

Why desire to be around anyone who cannot accept another’s own authentic demeanor and/or personality? Those types are not worth surrounding one’s self with, changing an identity to lose one within the process? No thank you!

When some people downplay someone else’s looks or mental capacity they are at times being honest as there may be reasonable truths since there is so much opinion, diversity and preference, however, the majority of the time it is done purely out of envy and jealousy because they actually lack the attributes or qualities that they recognize within another and they go into denial then lash out.

 

My other corresponding self written posts:

(https://misslatoya.wordpress.com/2012/11/21/natural-beautywhat-is-real-is-better-than-what-is-fake/)

(https://misslatoya.wordpress.com/2012/11/20/the-beautiful-skin-that-i-am-in/)

 

 

 

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A Few Responses To My Mother And Daughter Relationship Post

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Tulan on Fri, 04/05/2013 – 18:18.

I was without a father, also, but I always longed for a dad. All my friends had dads and I missed having one, although my mother and I had a great relationship.I felt like I missed out.

LaToya on Fri, 04/05/2013 – 23:44.

Thanks for sharing your story. It is always nice to observe and hear another person’s personal perspective. I did know my father and I had met his family yet I felt absolutely no type of connection to them as they were not at all my class of people to want to be around. And I am glad that he was not in my life. I did not miss out on anything as far as he was concerned. I am very sure though that many females have loved having their fathers around. To each his or her own. Sorry that you did not get the chance to experience what you felt you missed out on.

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oreiro on April 07th, 2013 @ 03:51 pm

Very good. Very strong.
Like it.
and I can agree with you (Ihave got a doughter), but I am also divorced when she was 2yrs and tobe honest – girls need fathers.

It’s my opinion, you’ve got your own and that’s good. I don’t know you, but I see what you write here and I can say – you wrote absolutely true things – your Mum has done a good job in upbringing you and you will do the same with yours children!!!
….(but it doesn’t mean that doughters don’t need fathers…)

LaToyaLawrence on April 07th, 2013 @ 04:04 pm

I agree with you completely. There are daughters that do indeed need a father figure within their lives. We are all different. I have no disagreements with what you said.

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itdawn69 on April 07th, 2013 @ 04:34 pm

The bond between a mother and daughter is great. However, I have to say that a strong father figure in a daughter’s life makes a difference. I have seen little girls grow up with no father and find that they do not know what a good relationship between a man and woman looks like. How can she choose a good husband or boyfriend? This is my opinion but a child girl or boy needs to have two parents so that they can see how love grows and how men and women should inter act with each other. My daughter was raised with two parents and her views on relationships and even sex are different from her friends who did not have a two parent home. I am not saying a child can not develop and mature ok in a single parent home but it is hard for one person to be both mother and father to a child. Children do not come with manuals so we just have to work with what we have and hope that our children turn out good.

LaToyaLawrence on April 09th, 2013 @ 11:52 am

Like I said we are all indeed different. I have grown up with males and females. I know who my father was and I still do.

However, I did not ever have a need for him. And love comes naturally. There is no set standard within how a man and a woman love one another.

I personally was born Asexual so I never had any sexual attraction or desire for any man. And I am very proud of that.

If I ever had any children no father will be involved because that is my prerogative. What comes out of my body belongs to me. I would go to a sperm bank.

And society in my opinion is not a good example of the male and female roles as it is often bias. I am more into what is natural than as to what is generalized.

To me the union between a man and a woman is unnatural and undesirable. And that has absolutely nothing to do with me not growing up around a father figure.

There have been plenty of men who were interested in me who were shocked to see that I was not the average female.

I have an entirely different mentality and I always knew a whole lot about different types of men and people because I am very intelligent and I was born with a caul/veil (the gift of second-sight).

No one has ever been able to put anything over on me.

I knew things that women who regularly dealt with men did not know about them.

There have been fathers of other young females and uncles of other young females who have told me that they wish that their female relatives were like me because many of them were getting dogged out and messed over by men.

A father even told me that he wished he had of brought his daughter over to talk to me before he found out that she had went and got pregnant at the age of eighteen.

He informed that he would have made her get an abortion if his wife had not kept the pregnancy hidden from him to a more later time.

There are many stories that I can tell.

However, to each his or her own, but this is a huge world and society and I definitely know for a fact that particular females do not at all need any male influence within the home to be productive and knowledgeable within the certain areas of life. And I am very firm on that because I am living proof!

There are certain things that men just do not understand when it comes to a female-I’m speaking from personal experience.

Some females who are too emotional and insecure make it bad for other women who are just the opposite.

All women do not get sexually attached to men through sex. All women do not get hurt if men mess around with other women, some do not even care.

Words like bitch and whore are not offensive to me yet many women do get offended by those words and men think that they can hurt a woman by saying those things.

Many women are brainwashed by the male influence. I could go on but I do not need to write a novel.

People will and are going to think what they want to think.

I am just very glad that I am very open-minded and that I am not limited and do not let anyone persuade my judgement in life.

No one can tell me anything that contradicts what I have experienced and what I know through insight, wisdom, and perception.

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Natural Cures For Menstruation/Using Vitamin Supplements As A Sufficient Remedy Against Discomfort During The Menstrual Cycle

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A lot of women suffer from constant menstrual pain/cramps that is sometimes severe and unbearable during their menstrual cycles, and many of them heavily rely on over the counter medications that contain ingredients that may not be safe or necessary. The same goes for prescription drugs that are prescribed by a doctor.

The most common forms of over the counter pain medications available on the market are non steroidal anti-inflammatory and acetaminophen. Both of these medicines work uniquely in that one brings relief to pain by reducing the production of prostaglandins.

Prostaglandins are hormone-like substances produced in various tissue that cause pain and inflammation. They are derived from amino acids. And they mediate a range of physiological functions like nerve transmission and metabolism.

And the other functions by working on parts of the brain in which “the pain messages” are received.

Between the two drugs, only one is also able to bring about a reduction in irritation and swelling (inflammation), and those are the non steroidal anti-inflammatory medications. However acetaminophen and the non steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs both lesson fever and alleviate pain caused by and/or associated with stiffness and muscle aches.

When i was in my early twenties I use to faithfully purchase the over counter product Advil (the ones that came in the yellow box). Ibuprofen was the only pain killer that had worked on me.

And in my opinion, Advil was the best pain reliever out there on the market, and i also liked the ingredients that the product contained. The two nice tasting caplets gave me satisfactory results yet they’d wear off over a certain period of time during the day or night. Then i’d have to proceed with further dosages.

From a very early age my mother made sure that i took quality vitamin supplements every day. I began with the “Flintstones” brand. When i turned fourteen i became a strict vegetarian, only wanting to put the nutrients that were of high value inside of my body. I would only eat fresh fruits, vegetables and grains.

I ate soybean proteins that had taken the place of red meat. And when i whipped up my meals they would taste delicious. My vegetarian creations tasted so much better and fresher compared to non vegetarian, fast, and unhealthy prepared foods with garbage ingredients.

I stopped drinking soda and milk and would juice my own fruits and vegetables. I visited a particular health food store that was located in my neighborhood quite a lot back then and started a lifelong course and preference for supplements that were well suited for me.

I only had the strong, intense desire to consume the nutritious and natural things. And the benefits were and still are very rewarding.

Whenever I visited a doctor i never viewed them all as total experts or ultimate figures of authority. A lot of them are indeed very qualified, knowledgeable in their field, and good at what they do. Nevertheless, doctors are still human and make mistakes. They don’t hold all of the answers and they all cannot be completely trusted.

I remember years ago at New York Hospital Cornell Medical Center Located In Manhattan, New York getting prepped up for a pelvic or abdominal CAT Scan. I continuously inquired about the IV dye (Iodine-based liquid) that I was going to be shot up with. I already had drank a load full of Iodine the day before and prior to my scanning.

I made clear that I wanted the hypo allergenic version of the contrast. And I made sure that i was fully informed about every detail regarding my welfare and the procedure. I apologized to one of the medical professionals who had attended to me. I told her that i was sorry for giving her such a hard time.

The woman responded to me in return by saying “No, not at all. You’re smart. Most of the people who come in here to the hospital are stupid. They act like the doctors are gods and just let them do anything and don’t ask any questions”. And i have to admit that i was surprised to hear that. Shocked that she even imparted that knowledge to me. I was still quite young back then. Older people who came there to the facility weren’t as cautious and savvy the way that i was.

I always had a lot on the cap and steadily educated my self through literature and evaluation about the human body and various pills, topical solutions, and so on. I often knew the particular things that were wrong with me before a doctor made the diagnosis. I also gave suggestions that the doctors often agreed upon. And i also knew back then that i had the absolute right to refuse any treatment or medication prescribed to me by any health care professional.

It is very important in life for us to not only observe our surroundings but, to constantly stay aware and gather as much information as possible regarding what pertains to our personal well being.

On my journey of discoveries I came upon two fantastic supplements that I had taken apart from one another amongst the other vitamins that I take.

The first was the M.D. Select Advanced Probiotic 30 billion Enteric Coating “Vitamin Shoppe” brand (which did not need to be refrigerated). I started taking the then vegetarian capsules three years ago for overall health and received a little something extra in return which i did not expect. I noticed an end to all pain during my menstrual cycle. Even when i did not consume the supplement regularly on a day to day basis.

All I had to do was take was one dosage of the 30 billion strains of good bacteria and my pain was knocked out for the rest of the day-and sometimes even for the next entire day depending on the severity of the discomfort. If the pain was worse than usual i’d have to take two, but that was it! And the pain disappeared in less than an hour. I’ll say about a good twenty to thirty minutes.

I had only got a result like that from taking my mother’s 500mg prescription strength Dosage of Naproxen Sodium that she’d share with me during those particular times of the month. I had been stopped my consumption of Advils, they just weren’t making the cut anymore. And they were nowhere near as sufficient as taking one dose of Naproxen Sodium that also killed the pain for the following days to come.

The 24 billion Flora Smart Biotract Delivery “Renew Life” brand is another very good high quality effective product which also does not need refrigeration.

No matter how much relief that i gained from taking my mother’s Naproxen I needed a better solution because this non steroidal anti-inflammatory prescription drug that my mother had gotten from her doctor had harsh side affects.

If administered over a long enough period of time, and depending on how it was consumed (Naproxen was advised to not be taken on an empty stomach or to be taken with milk), Naproxen Sodium could cause ulcers and i wanted to avoid getting a hole burned in my stomach.

Now second and last but not least is 1000 0r 1500mgs of MSM which is methylsulfonylmethane. MSM is organic sulfur. A sulfur-containing compound that occurs naturally in a variety of vegetables, grains and fruits. And, it also occurs in humans and animals alike.

MSM is great and well known for a number of things such as arthritis and joint pain. And along with the many other health benefits-including the detoxifying and antioxidant properties-that come from taking this wonderful and natural vitamin, there are no serious/dangerous side affects.

However, we are individuals and what will work for some may not work for all.

Vegetables, vitamins and minerals may not “always” be definite miracle cures. However, they certainly do aid In making us healthier and making us function much better. They definitely work and provide excellent results right away and in the long run.

MSM is my ” 500mg Naproxen Sodium Substitute”. It is my “Miracle Cure”. The ultimate natural cure for my menstrual pain and cramps. And to me it is a miracle pill because it doesn’t just take away the discomfort for a day-but for the days afterward.

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Natural Beauty/What Is Real Is Better Than What Is Fake

When I watch television I can’t help but to notice how a lot of celebrities nowadays resort to having plastic surgery.

It is sad how displeased they are with their appearance. And so displeased that they are willing to go under the knife and waste thousands of dollars on lifts, rhinoplasties, breast implants and tummy tucks.

In my opinion many of them looked a lot better before the surgery. And many of them look a lot better without make up.

I could never imagine allowing a doctor to perform cosmetic surgery on me if the procedure was not necessary (even if it was necessary I’d be reluctant to do it).

I can understand the people with medical problems and those that have been in terrible accidents who may need plastic surgery for reconstruction purposes, but for those who purely do it for the sake of vanity is just ridiculous.

A lot of females in the african american community (as well as celebrities whether white or black) parade around wearing the most outrageous of weaves some of the hair pieces do look decent as they are created nicely and neatly but, then you have those particular weaves that really need to go. The ones with the crazy color combinations and the ones that are very wackily styled.

I knew a girl who would get a different weave done on her head every friday. It was some kind of sickness to me because she already had a nice grade of her own natural hair.

I think it would be much better and appropriate if women invested more time, energy, and money into maintaining their real heads of hair as opposed to buying that expensive fake hair.

It is not natural/real so why bother to wear it? Why are these women so obsessed with sporting long hair that is not theirs?

I knew another girl who would wear her weave in a big bun under a scarf to make it appear as if she had plenty of thick long hair underneath. Then turn around the next day revealing her short thin permed locks. She’d do it all of the time when her natural hair wasn’t fixed. Who was she fooling?

You have some women who go and put on so much make up that they look like a clown. What are they trying to cover up and why aren’t they comfortable in their own skin?

To me, there is nothing more beautiful than being natural. That is the best appearance. I do not and have never worn any weaves or make up, nor have I ever had the thought and desire to transform myself through any type of cosmetic surgery.

The body is precious and should not be tampered with. I love everything that I was born with and would not change a thing that would be totally insane!

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The Beautiful Skin That I Am In

I am a thinker, a challenger, a truth teller and seeker.

It is very good to observe, question, talk about, and evaluate the many things that are going on in the world and around us.

By nature, I was always the type to thoroughly analyze and investigate. I was never easily influenced by anyone or anything simply due to something being laid out as fact or generalized as standard/normal, because I was very strong willed and had a very strong competent mind of my own.

As a female, I have experienced ridiculous bias that was foreign to me growing up. It was foreign because I never knew that I was supposed to be restricted in certain areas as far as my gender was concerned.

Society likes to dictate how a woman should be, act, think, and feel when the only way that I truly know how to conduct myself is naturally. And that is the same way that I will always continue to do. My character and disposition contradicts the stereotypical role and definition of a female. And no one will ever be able to stop or change me.

I’ve heard the most absurd things from assholes, including low scale women. “She’s too hard for a girl”.

I never knew as a woman that I was supposed to be weak! I had never been that way in my childhood or teenage years and certainly not in my adulthood.

“When a man say is how it goes”.

I never knew that a man’s words spit out gold and authority especially when he is not speaking truth! I have never heeded or been affected by anybody’s opinions or scolding that did not appeal or apply to me and my philosophies, whether they were male or female.

I know and am well aware that there are jealous/envious sick-minded people, and people who will always go around telling and spreading silly and vicious lies on others. This type of behavior goes on everyday and everywhere.

A rumor that I had found very strange about me is the one about my skin or face. Ever since I was a very young girl I have always been pretty and very attractive. I’ve had good skin and a nice grade of hair. And none of that is really important; however, it contradicts what my enemies were trying to do.

From my comprehension I believe that they wanted to give me a complex or a low self esteem, just another one of society’s ploys to keep a young and bright woman down by attempting to make her feel insecure about herself.

The biggest mistake that those in particular made is generalizing me. I am my own individual. And instead of playing into the obnoxious mind games, I learned from the ignorance of others. They showed the knowledge and the common sense that they lack, and the insecurities that they themselves actually have.

I have never ever had a skin problem yet my enemies had worked a black magic spell years ago for me to “breakout” then have people taunt me with lies. These stupid rumors went on for years with these chosen few sick people. And I never understood it.

Till this day I still do not understand it. When I was a teenager they tried to put in my head through black magic that I looked hideous and I never fell for it.

Beauty is indeed in the eyes of the beholder but I’ve never been an ugly person. And not that it matters-a lot of other people considered me to be pretty too. I have my own eyes. I can see myself for who and what I really am. What an insult to think that I would have been dumb and weak minded enough to not know better. Such stupid asses!

Why are and were they so hung up on my looks? I know why. A lot of guys were attracted to me and could not have their way with me because I had too much self love and confidence. Another reason why is that so many women have allowed themselves to be dogged out by men due to their own battles with low self esteem.

Everybody has their own motives for why they are sick and malicious and do what they do.

It all stemmed from jealousy, but my enemies all went about it the wrong way. If I ever did come to develop a skin problem such as acne it definitely would have not affected my self confidence. Things like that do not faze or bother me.

The most beautiful girls have breakouts due to allergies, their menstrual cycles or hormones and it is no big deal. I know that my hormones act up sometimes during my period. It is natural. I had to learn that I was rare in my thoughts about this matter. I realized that many people do associate a blemish, bump, or spots on the face with low self esteem and I think that is so sad.

There are people with clear skin who are as ugly as hell and they want to crack on attractive people with minor shit that holds no significance.

Only a true fool would ever come to the conclusion that I would feel bad or insecure about myself over breaking out with something. I always had a pretty face and complexion. I love the way that I look. I like my naturally oily skin that keeps me looking young in appearance. I like my slim/thin figure. I like myself.

This garbage is no different than a woman being regarded as a bitch or a slut, two other words that do not faze or bother me. And I’ve seen women go crazy over being called a “bitch”.

One lady acted as if she wanted to kill me over calling her one. I didn’t even mean it in the way that the rest of the world uses it. To me it was more of a way of saying “you asshole”.

The bottom line is that the world is a sick place full of good, mediocre, and evil people. There will always be those who will come along to try to break people’s strengths, play on their weaknesses if they have any, and destroy their spirits.

And sometimes it happens more so when you are a woman. Society loves to prey on and beat down women by bashing their reputations and physicality, coercing them into buying into submission and repression for meanness, power, selfishness, and personal gain.

There are individuals who will fall for the games and those who will not. And there will be those who will get confused.

I keep my ears and eyes open. I take everything in then sort it all out. I enjoy my life and my discoveries. It is a blessing to not get caught up in all of the nonsense.

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Asexuality/Asexual And Proud

I, LaToya Lawrence knew that i was Asexual ever since i was a young teenager, and i am so very proud to be that way as others are.  There are many people in this society who are ignorant to exactly what being Asexual means. To those who have no knowledge about it, some knowledge to it, or who are just plain interested in learning or learning more about the subject i have posted the accurate truth!  I copied the following article for review:

Asexual People – No Sex Please!

What is Asexual? Define Asexual and Asexuality

As a teenager, Cijay Morgan couldn’t understand the fuss her friends made over dating and boys. “My friends were pairing off and talking about crushes on movie stars, and I just didn’t get it,” remembers Morgan, now 42. As an adult, her dating life always stalled because she had absolutely no interest in a physical relationship.

Then, a few years ago, Morgan stumbled across an online community of people who defined themselves as asexual, meaning that they did not experience sexual attraction. “It was absolutely liberating, like bells ringing and doors opening,” she says. “I felt like going up to everybody and saying, ‘There’s a word for me!’”

According to a surprising new study, one in 100 adults has no interest in sex. And as awareness grows, more and more people, like Morgan, feel comfortable proudly identifying as asexual. Although they don’t want to bond between the sheets, many of them do want to fall in love or find a life partner. But in a world where sex can seem all-important, dating and relationships pose special challenges for them.

Is Asexuality Common?

While illness, depression, or certain medications can cause a temporary drop in sex drive or arousal, people who consider themselves asexual say their lack of interest in sex is a permanent part of their identity. “The biggest misconceptions are that something bad happened to make us this way, and that we can be fixed, or even want to be fixed,” Morgan says.

A recent study suggests that asexuality may be surprisingly common. Of the study’s more than 18,000 participants, one percent said they agreed with the statement, “I have never felt sexually attracted to anyone at all.”

As with any sexual orientation, what’s considered “asexual” ranges widely, and there’s a huge variety in the experiences of people who identify as asexual. “A lot of [asexuals] have had some sexual interest at one point in their lives,” says study author Anthony Bogaert, a professor at Brock University in St. Catherines, Ontario.

Love without sex

But just because someone isn’t interested in sex doesn’t mean they’re not interested in love. While some are happiest alone, asexual people can feel romantic attraction and have intimate relationships. They may like to cuddle and be physically close to others. Some get married and even have children. (In Bogaert’s study, 33 percent of asexuals were currently married or living with a partner.) “When it works, it’s not about the sex you’re not having, it’s about all the other things you share together,” says David Jay, 22, who’s known he was asexual since his early teens.

The challenge, of course, is finding a partner who either has a similar lack of interest in sex or can compromise. If you’re asexual, it’s important to get that out in the open early on, says Tina Tessina, Ph.D., a psychotherapist and author of The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again. She points out that the topic of what you’re looking for in a relationship often comes up during the early stages of dating, and that can provide an opening to say something like, “You should know that I’m not very interested in sex.” “Sex is an expected component of dating these days,” she says. “If you’re truly asexual, you need to let people know that. And if it’s going to chase someone away, so be it—why would you want to hold on to someone who’s not right for you?”

Norman, 20, got to know his current love interest online before breaking the news. “I just braced myself and said, ‘There’s something I have to tell you: I’m asexual,’” he says. Luckily, there was enough interest on both sides that the two are trying to make the relationship work, despite their sexual differences.

Bridging the sexual gap

What if you’re already in a relationship and you think you or your partner may be asexual? “If one of you isn’t responding to sexual overtures, or is constantly putting the other off or avoiding situations that could turn sexual, that’s the indication that something is going on and you have to talk about it,” Tessina says.

To do so, sit down in a calm moment, outside the bedroom, Tessina says. Then open by saying, “I realize that you’re feeling frustrated and that I’m not responding sexually to you as much as you like,” or “I’m feeling frustrated and you’re not responding sexually to me as much as I’d like.” Ask your partner how he or she feels, then give him or her a couple of minutes to talk, without interrupting. If you know or suspect that you’re asexual, say so, but be sure to tell your partner, “I care about you, and this isn’t a personal rejection; I just don’t have an interest in sex.”

Finally, talk about possible compromises. Some asexual people do have sex to make their partners happy, while others can’t tolerate it at all. These couples need to invest in lots of frank communication, as Norman and his partner are doing, knowing the right balance will come with time. His advice to other couples in the same boat? “Talk it through with your partner and find a middle ground. Neither one of you can bend all the way to one extreme. Only the two of you can decide what the right compromise is for you.”

For more information on asexuality, visit the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN) at http://www.asexuality.org.

Article by: Jeannie Kim, a New York-based writer and editor who writes frequently on relationship and health issues.

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Symptoms Of Voodoo/Black Magic

Black Magic & Voodoo Witchcraft

Black MagicBlack Magic is on the rise as predicted by Mony Singh in the article he wrote for “India Post” in 1994. Black Magic is dangerous and can destroy one’s health and wellbeing, it can also kill or make the individual commit suicide in extreme cases. The innocent soul seldom finds out that he/she has become a victim of Black Magic.

If you think you have become a victim of black magic here are the indications that will help you understand your situation.

Initial stages of possible Black Magic or Spirit Activity

  • Your sleep is disturbed
  • Fatigue and lack of energy to live day-to-day life
  • You have Fear
  • Disinterest in life
  • Hopelessness
  • You are irritated for no reason
  • You get angry for no reason
  • Severe Depression
  • Dryness of mouth at night
  • Obesity in some cases
  • Sudden Chills and Goose Bumps
  • Tightness around body parts
  • You start forgetting things in the spur of the moment and experience memory loss
  • Your access to the dream world is blocked: No remembrance of dreams when you wake up
  • Your professional career suffers
  • Irrational behaviour of people towards you.
  • Blockages in the inflow of moneyThere are many symptoms and it all depends upon the state of consciousness the victim is at and the kind of Spirit World influence that is affecting the victim.Advance Stages of Black Magic/Spirit Activity
  • You dream of dead bodies and horrible looking people who want to kill you in your dream
  • You dream of snakes & dirty places
  • Waking up suddenly in fear with shortness of breath
  • Dreaming of falling from Heights
  • Dreaming of Snakes, Scorpions & Spiders
  • You see black dots or smoke flying all over
  • The stomach bloats like a pregnant women’s belly and the area right above the navel tightens up & when touched feels like a golf ball is in there
  • Tightness and heaviness specially in shoulders and chest
  • Extreme hunger in case entities have taken charge of your body
  • Constant headache
  • Your complexion darkens
  • Itching, burning and stinging pains in different parts of the bodyFinal Stages of Spirit Possession/Black Magic with very little recovery time left
  • Cancer of blood or other body parts
  • Shrinking and malfunctioning of kidneys
  • Excessive alcohol consumption resulting in liver damage
  • Substance Abuse
  • Heart Attacks resulting in sudden death
  • Medicines do not work baffling the medical practioner: resulting in doctors using stronger treatments
  • Suicidal attempts or thoughts of self destructionAdditional symptoms pertaining to women only
  • Bruise marks around thighs & vagina
  • Rape in dreams by spirits with an orgasm that is real
  • Irritation in the vagina with Leukorrhea/Leucorrhea
  • Complete stoppage of monthly periods, irregular periods, painful periods, Dark Blood
  • unable to conceive due to psychic blocks so as the woman stays barren all her life
  • blockages in fallopian tubes and/or unable to hold the pregnancy resulting in miscarriage
  • Unexplained convulsionsAdditional symptoms pertaining to Spiritual People
  • Your interest in the divine consciousness takes a nose dive, you lose interest in your prayers and meditations.
  • Body shakes like a pemdulum when one tries to meditate or pray
  • One gets attracted towards unholy desires like homosexuality, Non-vegetarian food, sex & other vices
  • Your kundalini shakti becomes inactive in case your kundalini was functioning earlier.In serious cases where demons, devils or evil entities have taken possession of the individual’s body, the individual can commit suicide or become a killer. Sudden violent behavior is quite visible in these individuals.Important:
    The spirit activity increases 2-3 days before the Dark moon nights and the full moon nights. If you are a victim your condition will worsen around these periods. It will help you keep a log of the events around these periods. Please check the dates for the Full Moon Nights and the Dark Moon Nights that are listed at the end of this page.

    Voodoo Witchcraft
    (Very Cruel & Deadliest of all)Voodoo Witchcraft comes from the African continent & is extremely lethal. In the last few years it has spread into other parts of the world & is being mixed with other forms of Black magic to harm and kill people.

    The clothes, hair, nails and picture are used to make a doll that resembles the victim; the heart area of the doll is kept open for the final ritual. A ritual is performed and a heart is pulled out from a live animals body while it is vibrating and placed into the heart area of the doll, at this point the doll is infused with life connecting the doll with the victim with an invisible psychic chord. Once the doll and the victim are connected, 2-3 inch needles are pushed in the doll at specific acupuncture points to break the energy system of the victim. As the pins are pushed into the doll the victim feels as if a needle is being pierced into his body. The victim can be sitting thousands of miles away and will experience the attacks instantaneously. If the victim was made to eat or drink food and/or water that consists of “Masaan” (Ash of the Dead) infused with negatively charged energy by the black magician, the effects are life threatening and gives unlimited control over the victims Mind & Body. The prime focus of the black magician is to destroy the immune system of their victim. In case of a man: head & temple area, thumbs & big toes are targeted to break the immune system. In case of women, breasts and private parts are attacked to terrorize & harm the victim. The individual can be killed using this technique in as little as 28 days (one Moon cycle). If the individual is physically, mentally, emotionally & spiritually strong it becomes very difficult for the attacker to kill the victim within a specific time period and the attacks can continue for years until the victim or the black magician dies. At present many forms of black magic are being used all over the world, the problem is rising at a horrifying rate and the governments are not interested in looking into the problem and making laws to punish the Black Magicians. In the past few years hushed up research has been done at the Stony Brook Medical College, New York. USA and they have concluded that Voodoo witchcraft can kill people. 90% of Vietnam is dominated by the practice of black magic; Parts of Asia including India, China, Indonesia, Thailand, and Malaysia are the areas where the science of black magic is spreading like wild fire. In the west: America, Mexico & parts of South America, England, Eastern Europe & Africa are some of the areas where Black Magic & Voodoo witchcraft is on the rise. Here are some of the effects one can experience on the physical level if one has become a victim of Voodoo Witchcraft: In Voodoo the effects are not gradual but start instantly and the intensity of these attacks increase to higher levels depending upon the weakness of the individual.

  • Waking up with a jerk and in fear within moments one falls into the first stage of sleep.
  • A Dark or Grey smoke is seen in front of the eyes when awake.
  • One’s complexion turns dark & as the time passes it turns to darker shades of black.
  • Stinging pains in different parts of the body.
  • Shooting stinging pain in the tongue and one wakes up with extreme pain with a blister on the tongue.
  • Burning of palms as if they have been put on fire
  • Lips and other body parts get swollen in the spur of the moment for no medical reasons.
  • Constant Fatigue/ Low Energy
  • Mood Swings & extremely negative thinking that can lead to suicides
  • Jerking/Twitching of muscles or body parts
  • feeling of ants crawling on the body or body parts vibrate
  • Heaviness/Tightness in the whole body or certain body parts
  • In serious cases where spirits have taken control of the house where the individual is residing: one can experience dripping plasma from the walls, unusual activity of the insects & other wierd phenomenon that is unexplainable & unrealistic. Some of the unusual activity is only visible to the victims.
  • Whether it is Black Magic or Voodoo witchcraft the effets are intensified on and around the Full Moon Nights and the Dark Moon nights As the attacks continue the victim is torn down on multiple levels; gets bed ridden and eventually dies of no apparent medical reason. The doctor’s cannot help him because the symptoms misguide the doctors into giving the individual stronger treatments with every passing day and one day the body gives-up. If any of the above symptoms match your situation, you should immediately get professional help. There are some specific mantras in the Rig Vedas that can start protecting you immediately. Here are some precautions that you can take from becoming a victim
  • Do not eat or drink any item from anyone unless the person shares that food item with you.
  • Sweets/Desserts that are filled with “Ash of the Dead” and charged with negative mantra are used to create an opening in your auric shield and that opening is used as a channel to control your body & mind.
  • Black Magic is done using your picture, clothes, hair, nails, blood, saliva, skin tissue & used menstrual pads
  • Women get affected with black magic more easily than men, in women the effects can be observed on the surface while in men it works as an undercurrent and is not visible.
  • Black magic can also be done by touching your body or looking straight into your eyes.
  • Anything that carries an aura can be charged with negative energies to create an opening in the auric field of the victim. Examples: Clothing, jewelry, piece of paper, stuffed animals or stuffed dolls e.t.c
  • Black magic can also be done using your name and your mother’s name hence do not give sensitive information to everyone
  • There is nothing irrational about black magic as it is an ancient science and can be mastered to hurt or heal people hence follow the rule of Trusting in God but staying on Guard Important:The spirit activity increases 2-3 days before the Dark moon nights and the full moon nights. If you are a victim your condition will worsen around these periods. It will help you keep a log of the events around these periods. Please check the dates for the Full Moon Nights and the Dark Moon Nights that are listed below.
    If any of the symptoms listed above match your situation, your life is at serious risk, you should seek immediate help.